relationship matters #01: you're still the one ♥

days ago, if i'm not mistaken, it was a thursday evening. 
it was raining cats and dogs when i was driving home from work.
my mood was exactly like the downpour out there, emo max!


before joejoe called me up, radio station was start playing this song, 
namely "you're still the one".
i was attracted to it, not because of the tune but its lyric of the beginning part,
"When I first saw you, I saw love. And the first time you touched me, I felt love..."


last week was a tough week.
i believe all relationship has its ups and downs.
it depending on how you two manage and go through...


i used to give up very easily...
but till you really meet someone really meant to you,
mind changed. and i think it is a good change, it should be this way.


i believe we always heard people saying,
starting a relationship is easy but...
maintaining it is really a deep knowledge you need to learn through your life.


no worries.
me & joejoe are okay now.
(thanks laogong! i promise i won't make such a big mistake anymore. it was really the biggest mistake i ever made and the consequences are BIG. i promise no more)


read bout this article, it talks bout how to have a healthy relationship.
the points really make sense, thus, i thought of sharing it...
(perhaps i can start to share bout my experience and POV when comes to love matters in my blog. 
i'm learning still and will keep learning. and it will be a space for us to share so don't be shy to share with me yours :) i have a feeling me & joejoe will have a long way, a really long way to go. thanks god for sending me him, he makes me smile in my dream *sweet*)


back to today topic! hmm, how to maintain a healthy relationship:


♥1 respect


it is crucial. everyone have their own thinking, how they value things is different simply because we are unique. when two becomes one, it is always sweet at the very beginning, your loved one will always be someone flawless to you during this honeymoon period. however, like i mentioned earlier, maintaining a good relationship is really a big knowledge! being together is all about how you live with him/her to become one. no matter how match you two are, surely will have different thoughts when come to certain stuffs, thus, it is the time "respect", this element coming in. respect your loved one might have different thoughts, understand why and work the best way out of it. don't scare of any "shaky moment" might comes, believe me, it will makes you two stronger when you two overcome it.


♥2 being together


you have to find it fun and wanted to spend time with your loved one. i'm not asking you to stick with your loved one 24-7. we all lead our own life and we have our own circle of friends but it is important, always find time, a quality one to be with your loved one. i will busy with my work and joejoe too, he spends most of his time drawing, and he need to stay focus. we prefer not to disturb each other when we are busy. agree with me or not, when you are busy, you might hurt your loved one when you are bothered by something. what i would like to share, is really ... not sure what word i can use to explain this kind of feeling (IT IS AWESOME!), when i was taking my 1 min off missing my joejoe, he will surely call and say he loves me, haha! yay i feel we are so much connected. that's a simple trick you can use :) 


find a hobby for you two. what i have in plan, i'm going to list down what we want to do together and we have a checklist then complete together. awesome, isn't it? hehe! latest to do: puzzle! anyway we are still looking for one hehe!

♥3 not holding anger


hahaha! i have my pms and joejoe has its anger. hmm sometime one have to be nice when the other one is on fire. and not to angry over one matter for more than a week. it will torturing both of you two, trust me! i experienced it, arghhh! don't like!


♥4 listening


listening is important. however, if only listening not going to work for you. listen & digest it - that's the way! maintaining a relationship is all about learning what's the difference of you two and how you work things out for these two very unique persons to be one :) challenging, isn't it?


spend time talk to your loved one everyday, knowing their days and be involved/part of their life. oh ya, some great tips! girls mumble quite a lot and they complain almost everyday. bare with them, sometime you just need to listen and they don't really need your solutions. why am i saying this is because a couple might start arguing when their guys start giving solutions while the girls don't need it. maybe. that's the nature of a guy. 


♥5 being yourself
sometime, one may lose his/her identity after he/she is attached. it is not healthy! 
a relationship is about growing together, if you are too attached to one, becareful, you might be sliding down while another part is growing. then comes the gap!


you can't make your complaint. it's all about yourself, you lead your own life! you must learn to stand at your own feet. a more independent girl always loved more by his guy :) ♥


more details bout the article please refer to: 
http://lifestyle.malaysia.msn.com/Relationships/article.aspx?cp-documentid=4518120&page=0




joejoe is going new zealand in months time, argh, less than 2 months :( *sob sob* i can foresee more challenges are ahead us but we can surely can do it. i tell myself, joejoe better fast fast go then he will come back faster. friends scolding me for so stupid and telling me long distance relationship is not going to work. la la la ... i don't have a crystal ball but i have faith, with my love to joejoe and his love to me, we will, this is what i trust.


it is hard for the moment but for a better one we will in future ♥ let's kar yao together!


christmas is coming! i love christmas and this is going to be the first christmas for me & joejoe. oh ya, i can't wait for my christmas in nz next year! 


merry christmas to everyone! :) 


shall i end it with the lyric of :you're still the one? i'm sure you will love it! ciao!





When I first saw you, I saw love. 
And the first time you touched me, I felt love. 
And after all this time, you're still the one I love.

Looks like we made it 
Look how far we've come my baby 
We mighta took the long way 
We knew we'd get there someday 

They said, "I bet they'll never make it" 
But just look at us holding on 
We're still together still going strong 

You're still the one 
You're still the one I run to 
The one that I belong to 
You're the one I want for life 
You're still the one 
You're still the one that I love 
The only one I dream of 
You're still the one I kiss good night 

Ain't nothin' better 
We beat the odds together 
I'm glad we didn't listen 
Look at what we would be missin' 

I'm so glad we made it 
Look how far we've come my baby 


with love, 
caroline ♥